What wording would allow me to do that?
Move {some land} to {a zone}[1].
Other than abilities, some keyword actions instruct you to do this, which brings us to your next question.
"Destroy target land"?
Yes, because destroy is defined as move {permanent} from the battlefield to its owner’s graveyard.
You'll never see "target" in a cost, though. There would be problems with doing that, and there would be no gain over simply choosing (e.g. "destroy a land").
That said, you'll never see "destroy" in a cost either. A cost is something you must pay; it should not be a benefit under normal circumstances. Furthermore, destruction can be nullified by regeneration. It should not be possible to avoid paying a cost in that fashion.
I know that [Sacrifice a land] doesn't allow me to destroy my opponent's lands
Sacrifice is defined as move {a permanent} you control from the battlefield to its owner’s graveyard. It would work if it wasn't limited to a permanent you control.
- Note that "return" is sometimes used as a synonym for "move".